#28 is The Ultimate Feast

Yo, Can we cut the bullshit already???!!!
It's getting on my nerve. * le sighs in French *


I had a whole different blog that was supposed to be posted. It was called "To Thy Selfie Be True" but frankly after the last couple of days in the twisted, wicked world of the internetz, I have to free a few thoughts that might piss some niggas off and might not. I personally don't give.a.fuck. I've seen so much misogyny, finger pointing, shit talking, 'real woman is/isn't' bullshit since the Superbowl that I think it should be called #SuperBitch.

Matter a-damn fact, for the rest of this blog, I will be referring to it as #SuperBitch because that is all people have done for the last couple of days (bitch and moan and whine) and I don't reckon much will change throughout the week. I had to draw all the way to my southern heritage to type reckon.  There will be an influx of cusswords and hashtags and gifs from hence forward and I hope don't let that deter you.

First off, Beyonce. #SheSlayed. It's my opinion, which doesn't make it a fact, but that's the temperature of this blog.The bitch slayed and I call her that because she calls herself that proudly and so I figure we're even. The bitch slayed. The song...eh. I'll bump it hard. I won't consider it my 'anthem' because I won't be taking a nigga to Red Lobster simply because...I don't eat there anymore. *shrug* Nonetheless I dig the song. It's certainly not the 'Holy Grail' of black power movement music, but it's something and it's still true to Beyonce. She didn't Clark Kent her way into a faux song that sounds nothing like her or what she does. She kept it Houston, kept it Bey and branched off from her 'norm' a little bit visually. But for me, the most beautiful part of the show was seeing all those beautiful black women, standing, dancing, saluting on that field. Afro puffs and Black Panther-esque dress codes made for a beautiful sight for my eyes as I fought back tears. I wasn't the only one. A room full of multiple races of people stood in awe, clapping and cheering on the beauty of the performances of all the artists. NO ONE in the house that I was in felt taken aback by the color of Beyonce's hair. Or measured the times she twerked. We saw beauty during the #Superbitch halftime show. So I know it's not just me.

Peep the nod to Blue Ivy on the drums tho. ;)


Here's where it goes bad. The internet is full of opinions. For every like mind there are is yin/yang effect and Facebook gives us first class access to seeing the clashing of differing opinions. We see the ugly, the arguments, the scary and the beautiful. We see racism in it's raw form. And it's all available with one click of a link. So there's a PROTEST going on in NYC against Beyonce. I'm guessing these same people aren't protesting with Black Lives Matter or grabbing bottles of water for Flint. Giuliani had words, strong words that I had to cease in watching mid-interview about Beyonce of all things. Not Flint. Not the crime in NY. He feels no passion for the family of Akai Gurley or Eric Garner or idk, any of the other thousands of names on the list. His exact words: "...What we should be doing in the African American community (and all communities) is build up  RESPECT for police officers. And focus on the fact that when something does go wrong, Ok. We'll, we'll work on that..." Ohok. So I'm guessing his GAF for the innocent lives lost at police hands aren't of his concern. He doesn't even have a non-stuttering statement readily....

The hate is strong and passionate and troublesome. Not because of Beyonce. Not in this blog. I could give a damn about a Beyonce one way or the other. I'm looking at this whole circus as a successful black woman under attack by both white and black people and while I doubt she is concerned, I just wonder what it says about us as a people. Beyonce's blonde wig is offensive. She hates being black. Her message is skewed. Her twerking is outrageous. She bleaches her skin. Doesn't comb her daughters hair. Her daughter was sitting with Gwenneth Paltrow and her kids while Beyonce was performing....she doesn't respect black folks. No respecting Black Panther woman would dress like this. Blah fucking blahhhhhh.
I guess for me, I just don't know how one could see that much beauty in the form of ALL those black women and write them off like they weren't there. And to me, that speaks volumes because that's how black women are treated in society. Or am I the only one? I feel virtually invisible at work. That's not the greatest feeling. They pile a ton of shit on my coworkers desk but I wonder do they not trust me beyond what it is I do? #InvisibleBlackWoman. Maybe it's just me.

But it seems like all folks saw was Beyonce's blonde wig. They didn't see her or the more than 28 other black women on that field. More on that later....

Finally there are the white people, who are pouring tears in clouds and making it rain all over the WWW.  'How dare she use such a platform to rally against police!' Half of these whiney muthafuckas don't even know the lyrics or get the references or messages. They hear Black Panther and see a black woman and automatically shift into airing out their inner racist. When white people cry oppression it really sounds a lot like the boy who cried wolf. He got everyone looking around for the wolf but you never see it because it was never there. But I will end that there. This isn't that blog.

Lets move on to Amber Rose. The original muse for this particular blog who just took a backseat to Beyonce (rightfully so). A couple of weeks ago she was accused of gay bashing, snitching, being petty and violating Kanye West's privacy because of the tweet she sent out below:

This after Kanye West drug her and her child into some tacky childish 'twitter beef' with Wiz Khalifa. I wouldn't be surprised if all this crap was staged but for now, let's us continue. Kanye West has tweeted and interviewed about her, made an album of which she was the 'muse' and we all know it. Below is something he once said:

How Sweet, An Old Tweet

Now let's remove the 'celebrity' and talk about black women because this is not a blog about Beyonce or Amber Rose. This is a blog about black women and the scores of people we have to fight daily which includes our own people, the more successful we become. We all know there are "Beyonce Haters" just as there is the BeyHive. I do not exist in either of these sections. Do I like Beyonce??? Yep. Would I go see her live?? Nah. I'd go see Jay tho...Am I an Amber Rose fan ? Nah. Sometimes I think she does the UTMOST and other times, I'm like GO MUVA!!!! To this notion, let's look at Ciara really quick. She recently filed a 15 million dollar slander lawsuit against Future. He's been tweeting about her, interviewing about her, talking shit about her and calling her bitches in 140 characters. She finally snaps back and guess what the people say ? She's a gold digger. A petty bitch. She shouldn't have her son around the man she's dating. She was fucking Future raw and now she's a born again virgin?? Bish please.

It's like we just can't win. I'm an empathetic black woman. I feel the feelings of other people so easily that sometimes I have panic attacks from OTHER people's stress. I had to learn to cut that out. Sometimes when I look back on my life and re-read these blogs I clearly see I've lived a lot of lives. From lost teen to stripper to poet who gets invited to speak at high schools, I have lived a day to day life of hoping I was getting it right with whatever I was/am doing at the time. I am the only black woman at my job. I am the only black person at my job. Idk if anyone else in this type of work environment feels this, but I often feel like the whole black race is being represented by me in this office. It's a feeling I wish I didn't have. I just want to rep K. Smith, not my whole damn race. Other times, I want them to see me know that black people are dope AF. Lately, I haven't GAF at all. I feel like my job is on the line daily. Not because of what I don't do; just because of the way corporate works. I love my hair straight. It's more manageable that way. When people at work compliment my straight hair, it makes me want to wash my hair in the bathroom and come back out in full afro. #ToBeBlackInAmerica. No one compliments my kinky. And they don't have to because I love it!! I wear it at my leisure. MY damn decision. And I'm still a black woman, straight, kinky and colored and basically fuck the naysayers.  

In my relationships, I've struggled not to be the 'black woman with all the baggage' or the 'angry black woman', which the original Muse of this blog quickly referred to me. An angry black woman. Go figure.

I live in a world where folks think they SHOULD be able to do anything they want to you and you take it with a smile. They should be able to cheat on you, lie to you, misuse you, mistreat you, use you, call you names, be irresponsible, laugh in your face and/or behind your back and still you will smile. Being 'angry', as a black woman is something you don't have the right to...unless you want to get hit with that label. Black women are expected to not be able to find and keep love. There are hundreds of blogs and articles picking apart our flaws and closet insecurities to come up with an answer as to 'why black women can't find a man'. "Why can't black women get married?"  "Ten things a black woman needs to do to find a man". 'Why are more black women unwed mothers than white women?"


The obsession with how our lives unfold seems like a scripted page from reality tv. Our bodies are worshiped when they are bought and paid to appear on white women. #LetThatSinkIn Our bodies are also worshiped by our kings......until we open our mouths. Then suddenly we are too mouthy. Have too much attitude. We aren't passive enough. We invented twerking. I remember twerking as a teen to Patra. When we do it, we're sluts. When white folks do it, they cute. Or they just want to be us. Or a combo of both. But it's accepted and we dance to it and sing along too. So is it because our asses are thicker with more rhythmic bounce that makes black girls get frowned upon? By even their own people?

The attacks don't just stop there. If we like Marilyn Monroe, we don't know who we are. We are accused of being women who don't know their own heritage and the beauty within it. My sisterblogger Laura of Oh Wize One did a writeup on being a black woman who loves MM as well as phenomenal black woman from the past and how it doesn't negate her blackness. Read that here. I love Marilyn Monroe and always have. There's a divine energy connection I've always felt towards her inner Norma Jean. On the flip side, there ain't shit you can tell me about Eartha Kitt, Zora Neale Hurston, Maya Angelou, Lena Horne, Dorothy Dandridge or Grace Jones. I LOVE these women. I am black. I am woman. But my appreciation for Marilyn Monroe makes me a target from my own people who think they have the right to call into question my blackness. #BitchImNotOnTrial

Blackness is always under fire. From who we 'idolize' to how we dress and accessorize ourselves. If we have blonde hair, which MANY black women dye their hair blonde or some derivative of it, then we are accused of wanting to be white. Beyonce is often accused of this. Now, if this were Lil Kim, who clearly dislikes her (no-longer) black skin, then we would be on to something.

If we have weave, we don't like our natural hair. I have natural hair and often think about wigs and weave. I want a collection of wigs so I can change my color and my look as I see fit. To some, this makes me a trader. You know why? Because I would especially get me a blonde wig. Just.Because. Somehow this equates to not loving ourselves. FYI: no one appointed natural women the blackity blackest of all so um, yeahhhh. If we wear makeup, we are misrepresenting ourselves. We don't love our features. If we shake our asses when we dance, we're not dancing; we're being That Hoe Over There. #HowCleverOfYaw.  But wait, I already addressed the art of twerking right? And how adults AND kids in Africa twerk all the time and it's NORMAL. Right?


This is me barely cracking the ice. Black women have to reaffirm our blackness and our proud as if there is some EarthGod we owe explanations to. We are told how to dress.I remember there a video going around of a college band pretending to do a funeral for their rival during a classic. The faux-funeral video made the rounds on social media because it looked like it was happening 'at church.' I wonder when we will look past our own eyes quite often. Really guys? You actually thought it was a church? You won't even give your own people more credit to their smarts than that? When other people commented on what it was, folks didn't care. They still talked about the misguided girls twerking and shaking ass in skimpy outfits and how they were headed to hell. But these same girls are lined up in the cold during Circle City Classic in these same outfits, doing these same dances and no one bats an eye. Matter a fact, no matter how cold it is, you bundle up the family and try to get there early for a front curb seat! That's the thing about this society's ill relationship with black women: We are only as good as their entertainment. When they are NOT entertained, then we revert back to the angry bitches, hoes and sluts we always were in their eyes. When our song is not making them nod their heads profusely, when our poems aren't full of what they want to hear, we lose them. When our asses aren't shaking at the time they deem appropriate, we lose them. Them = black folks and especially white folks.

Black women aren't allowed to grow or evolve. We are supposed to still be in a mamie dress with collection barrels hanging off both sides of our hips. We are meant to be docile creatures who think for ourselves only when ALLOWED to. Sort of like an incentive for getting all the cotton up so quick. Who told us to be these free spirited black women who twirl, toss glitter and twerk in the bathroom in our church dresses?? Don't we know we aren't allow to think differently or make moves in silence and only emerge when we have results?? We aren't able to be revolutionaries unless we were born that way. It's not something we are allowed to evolve into. We can't be good mothers without a husband. If we are single parents raising little boys, we are often accused of treating them like our husbands. "A woman can't raise a man' is a statement I've ONLY heard in black circles. I'm not negating the truth or lie of it. I'm simply saying while we may not be able to teach a growing boy about manhood shit just like a father can't truly explain menstrual cycles to his daughter, but damn can we at least get the credit due for  trying? For not giving up when we were pillaged, raped, stolen from and/or left on our own to deal with the results? Our society still frowns upon us, referring to us as welfare queens and golddiggers. Tax time never passes without masses of people finger pointing what we are doing with our checks. Damn, can we just be black and die at our time? So what if our choices don't make sense to someone else. That's why we are free MFs!


Or are we????

The public world is scary. Black people and white people sometimes have the same disdain for the Black Woman. Maybe I'm reaching. Someone reading this thinks I am. But I know what I see. My perception from all I have taken in just in the last three days is that a black woman in total control of herself and her decisions is a threat to just about everyone else. A black woman who knows the blessing of a Yes and the power of a No is a fucking threat. Do we emasculate others by being aware of who we are? Do people fear an uprising when they see mounds of black women starting to really walk in their Light and essence?

#JaneseTalktonJackson and #MarySpears were both killed because they rejected the men that attempted to get their numbers. Two black women, both mothers, dead and gone because of male entitlement. Male entitlement rivals white privilege if you ask me. Both are deadly games and both will shit on the black woman. Our lives are literally at stake. Yet folks would spend hours a day debating on whether or not Beyonce is in the illuminati and why her #Superbitch show was nothing. SMDH.

Hey guys,
it WAS something. It reached who it was supposed to reach, much like this blog. If that person wasn't you, what's wrong with moving right along without comparing Bey to the black panther movement? Since when does a black woman not have the right to give a tribute? Since when does a black woman need your 'just-as-black-as-she-is permission on how to serve her people (or not)? Even if it was all one big stunt, it gave a shitload of women an extra boost of self-confidence which we are always in short supply of. With a country full of people against us and tearing us down, I guess it makes sense that a song some find empowering pisses off others. I guess when Amber  Rose or Ciara finally say enough is a enough and clapback, that would ruffle the feathers of those who think a woman's role is silence.

As for me and my crew.....or better yet, as for me, I loved it. I love the symbolism in her video and that doesn't mean I think it's a revolutionary song or act. It means I appreciated the art I saw. I think she took a risk at Superbowl (I mean #Superbitch) but what do I know? Maybe it wasn't. Nonetheless, to me, it was. It was better than her standing there doing Check Up On It and hitting herself on the head while chewing gum. But wait - Check Up On It and Partition and songs like it are the reason she can't rep black folks right? Cause none of us are fucking right? Lol. Last time she did SuperBitch, folks couldn't wait to make fun of all the faces she was caught making. I admit I laughed at some myself. I know that life tho. Cute performance faces is an art. This year folks say she's done nothing impressive and they can't help but talk about the fall.

The black woman's fall is sight for some eyes. They indulge in it. Rerun it. Share it. Love it. Have orgasms because of it. Her get up is less exciting. Even if she's getting up through a storm. Or a death. Or a surgery. Or a heartbreak. Her get up is no fun to watch and her fall is subscribed to. People WAIT for it.

I'm no longer talking about Beyonce.
She wasn't on that field alone. There were at least 28 other black women out there. I know because I counted one picture and I know they weren't all shown. 28 is a weird number. I would imagine she filled it out to 50. But let's go with what I know. 28 other black women stood on that field with Beyonce. It's like they were invisible; lost in the all the social media chatter, complaints and protests. But no matter what is said, nothing can take away from those women. Those 28+ black women  were living THEIR dream. I will never understand why folks have such a big issue watching others climb their personal ladder of elevation. If you know dancers, true dancers who give their all to each performance, then imagine the impact and importance of dancing not just alongside and with Beyonce, but at the Superbowl. I had a sisterfriend sing during Superbowl when it was in Indy. She was apart of the choir and despite it not being a solo moment for her, her excitement of it all was no different than if she were handed the mic personally. So when I see those #28Sisters, I know for a fact that they were over the moon about where they were and what they were doing. Let's think about statistics for a second before this blog ends. The odds are that more than a handful of those women (if not all) know someone or was related to someone who died by police hands. They probably know someone who passed during Katrina. Maybe one of them is affliated directly or indirectly w/the Panther Party. I wonder if any of them knew Messy Mya (google)?  One thing of no question is ALL of them were living their dream. Meanwhile, back on social media's ranch, they seem to be unheard of. The talk is all about the blonde wig Beyonce wore and the twerking she did. Nevermind those women who stood next to her. Nevermind their hearts or passions or their blackness. They automatically are nothing. #BishWhereIsYourCottonBarrel

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* sigh *
They say Beyonce is being boycotted. But I bet these are the same people that allege that Mike Brown tried to kill a police officer.

They say Amber Rose is homophobic by her tweet about Kanye. I'm guessing these people don't rally in line for the years of disrespect thrown her way leading up to it.

They say Ciara is a gold digging hoe. I'm guessing they think she broke. LOL.

They say strippers are hoes, single moms aren't doing a good job and that black women have poor attitudes and can't find a man.

Whoever 'THEY' is needs to get a whole life. I will end with the blogtrack for this blog. I've listened to nothing but Beyonce while writing. It's only befitting that I end w/the song that got the shit started. It's interesting how I keep seeing people talk about 'read the lyrics' and 'the lyrics don't reflect revolution'. Lol. I didn't think they were SUPPOSED to. Folks are relying heavily on 'When he fuck me good, I take his ass to red lobster' as their selling point to how counterproductive this song is to black people. I never sit and breakdown lyrics in songs that weren't meant to reach me and spend countless hours debating the songs on FB. I don't like 2Chains. Or Fetty Wap. Idk if I'm even spelling their names right. But you'd be hard pressed to find me challenging their lyrics. If I don't like it or it doesn't speak to me, I'm not above turning my nose up but sitting around trying to prove to everyone else why they are 'sheep' for listening is beneath me. Straight up. * shrug *  Funny thing is how Jhene Ainko's line "you gotta eat the booty like groceries" received little to no criticism yet was (and still is) playing all over the radio as a top hit. But let Beyonce mention fucking and folks lose their cool and hear no more lyrics. She's only been linked to one man...the one she's married to.

I mean...what is it?

You don't want to eat the Ultimate Feast? After all, that's what a Free Black Woman is: The Ultimate Fucking Feast. For mind, body and soul. And if you still on the fence about that, you need to need exit this blog immediately. Cause ain't nothing but #QueenFeast here.
Hmm....i wonder if bae wants to go get some crab legs tonight????????? *twerks in office chair*

Blogtrack: 

"Slay trick
or you get eliminated."

~Formation,
Beyonce

~jY